On gay marriage

9 Jul

I’ve been thinking long and hard about the entire “gay marriage” issue that held sway last month in the Congress. Proponents of a constitutional amendment to define marriage as being between a man and a woman claim that traditional marriage is under attack.

I’ve concluded that these folks may be right after all. It seems that traditional marriage is indeed threatened in this country. But it’s not from gay marriage.

We’ve got high divorce rates in this country, especially among born again Christians, which is kind of surprising in some ways.

Our business culture values work and not family life. Work comes first, overtime is required, and the time spent together as a family gets the short end of the deal.

Businesses are reluctant to hand out much vacation time. Two weeks a year doesn’t offer much time to recharge the batteries and for husbands and wives to rekindle the romance.

Consumer costs continue to rise, but wages remain stagnant. Husbands and wives both have to work to make ends meet, sometimes working two or three jobs each. When money is tight, arguments can break out. When this happens repeatedly, the marriage begins to crumble.

We don’t do much in this country to promote stable marriages. Too often the churches have pre-marriage programs that focus exclusively on the scriptural and religious aspects of marriage, but they don’t examine whether young couples have discussed who will have which responsibilities in their home. Too many couples get married without having considered things like child care, finances, and other issues that can put strain on a marriage. Perhaps our churches and synagogues and mosques need to do more work like this ahead of time.

Yep, marriage is threatened in this country, but the right wing has (again) targeted the wrong cause instead of the right causes. (Can anyone spell Iraq?)


One Response to “On gay marriage”

  1. Livette April 22, 2007 at 9:39 am #

    Nice blog!

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